9 // 16 // 2017


The below is a transcript from the In My Opinion with Starr Howard Podcast // #WordUpWednesday – Knocking Walls Down// Aired on September 13, 2017

In my days of solitude, I’ve realized that I have created a huge wall around , not simply my heart, but all of me!  I created this wall and disguised it as boundaries. Trust me, boundaries are absolutely necessary, but they are there to protect your space and your peace.  Boundaries are easier to move and adjust.  This wall has not only kept people out, it has locked me in.  This wall keeps me from feeling, connecting, loving, and even disliking.  This wall has made me feel nothing.  I at times, do not allow myself to feel; which was the driving factor behind the podcast episode “Mask Off”.  A friend recently told me to simply let-it-go and let those emotions out and allow my hear to fell and love.  Our heart does what it’s supposed to do, when we let it and not try to dictate and control it’s job duties.  So, why do we build walls?  For protection, right? I see it this way: a wall doesn’t just become a wall overnight, it takes time and effort.  It develops over time.  Each lie we’re told, we lay a brick.  Each time someone breaks our heart, we lay a brick.  Each betrayal, we lay a brick, until a wall is built.  Exactly how that wall is built, piece by piece, is exactly how that wall comes down, piece by piece.  Also it’s important to understand that we don’t start building these walls when we become adults, this wall can build and develop in childhood.  When we see our fathers leave our mothers, we lay a brick. Every time our fathers don’t show up when they say they will, we lay a brick of distrust for men.  When our mothers compete with us or tell us that we’re getting fat, our hair is hard to manage because it’s nappy, we lay a brick of disconnection to other women.

These walls we have up start very early and our built piece by piece.  The only problem with that is, it can take YEARS for that wall to come down, causing you, me, us to miss out on blessings, opportunities, and people that were sent to better and increase us.  Don’t get me wrong, we should definitely protect ourselves.  Everyone is not deserving of your heart, soul, spirit, energy, or even your time, but we must use our spirit of discernment and vulnerability to determine who we should open up to.  Sometimes we have to risk it all and take the plunge.  We have to put ourselves out there and become available, but tread lightly.  I can say that each time I’ve let my wall down (And there haven’t been many times), I never once regretted it.  My regret comes when I try not to feel and miss out on the love.  I can honestly say that it’s truly better to love than to not love at ll.  So, how do we really know who we should let our wall down for?  Truth be told, we don’t.  We let them do the work.  We definitely shouldn’t make it impossible, but we should make them work for us.  We make them prove themselves to us.  We judge each person individually by THEIR behavior and not by the last person’s actions.  We have to make a decision as to whether or not we will allow someone else in. We have to decide to slowly pull the wall down.  If the result is not exactly what we intended, we accept it and move on.  We are resilient.  We can get through heartbreak.  If you’ve done it once, you can do it again.  If you’ve loved once, you can love again.

I’ve made the mistake of letting that wall define me.  It changed me.  I’ve become cold, standoffish, and untrusting.  I don’t like the person I’ve become.  I don’t like that I don’t allow myself to feel.  The very thing that I think I’m protecting, is the best thing about me.  It’s what makes me, me.  My heart, no matter how tender it is, my compassion, regardless of how limitless, and my ability to love and accept others, regardless of they have treated me (Proceeding with caution, of course), is what makes me the person I am.  It is who God created me to be.  We must stop going against God’s natural order and creation, and be who we were created to be, lovers!  Love heals all.  Don’t miss out on your blessing because of what someone else did and how someone else treated you.  Remember that behavior had, and has, absolutely nothing to do with you.  It has everything to do with the other person and the agreements they have made with themselves.  Don’t ever give anyone the power to change, control, and dictate who you are.  You have that power! You own you, so go out there and own the world and LOVE!

Thank you and God Bless you all!


♥ Starr

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. ~ Proverbs 4:23

SEPTEMBER // 3 // 2017


In my teenage years, I remember hearing Queen Latifah rapping the lyrics U.N.I.T.Y.  Although her song called for unity among black men and black women, the catchy chorus still rings in my thoughts every now and then, and even more so the last few weeks.

Hurricane Harvey hit my home state hard!  I’m a Texan, I attended undergraduate in Beaumont, I grew up in Houston and Rosharon, graduated high school in Angleton, TX, and spent the last 14+ years in Houston, before relocating to California, this past February.  All of my love ones are spread around all of South Texas.  To say that my stress and worry  levels are high, is an understatement.

Photo from http://www.HoustonPublicMedia.org


Photo from nbcnews.com

To watch the devastation of the city and hear the worry and panic in the voices of my friends and family, and not have the ability to do anything to ease their spirit, is hard!  The one thing that makes my heart smile is watching Texans come together in love, compassion, and unity.  During a time where our country felt the most divided with racial tension and gender discrimination, Hurricane Harvey swept through and showed the true meaning of Humanity.  It forced us back to our natural instincts of service and survival.  At this moment, I am proud of human kind.

Unity seems to be the buzz word the last few weeks.  Think about being in a state of dehydration or a bit overheated.  Our bodies crave water to quench that thirst and heal the dehydration.  Our country was craving unification.  A few weeks ago, after Charlottesville, the Bishop at my church announced a Fast.  A Unity Fast to pray for our nation.  A Fast to bring this country together.  This Fast was scheduled for three days and the three days happened to fall during the time of the Hurricane.  As we fasted and prayed, the country joined together as a whole.

Ezra 8:23 – So we fasted and petitioned our God about this, and he answered our prayer.

Sidenote: God answers prayers, but know that the answers don’t always come the way we want them to come.  Be ready! Be careful what you pray for, because you just might get it.

So about my fast. The most common form of fasting is the elimination of food for a period of time.  However, I believe that we must Fast from the thing, or the people, that have the strongest hold on us.  The thing(s) that cause us to behave outside of ourselves.  I decided to Fast from Social Media.  I found myself waking up and scrolling my timeline, randomly reaching for my phone throughout the day, scrolling before I fell asleep, and checking my timeline, while on the phone with family and friends!  It was ridiculous.  With so much going on in the world right now, from Charlottesville, to Colin Kaepernick and the NFL, to Hurricane Harvey, social media took complete control of my emotions.  I found myself reacting to people I don’t know and posts that I would normally scroll past, and not in a favorable way.  I was allowing other’s opinions and lack of compassion and knowledge effect my mood and my behavior.  That’s when I decided that I had to remove myself from that space.

The last 3 days have been awesome!  It’s allowed me time to myself.  I’ve been more calm.  I’ve given loved ones my undivided attention.  My thoughts and my heart is clear! During the fast, I took a moment to evaluate my wants and how I can become more intentional about those wants.  In my intentions, I made sure to write down those wants, putting them into God’s universe (I’ll blog or podcast about that later). In addition, I’m not weighed down by the constant photos and news regarding Harvey.   I only know the facts about Houston from friends and family who are actually living through the situation.

I will definitely add social media back to my life, but my approach is different now.  If we are not careful, social media can dictate who we are and how we behave.  We must control how we react and who we allow to control how we feel.  I suggest that if, and when, you feel yourself getting out of character as a cause of social media, take a break.

I also encourage you to pray and give to local organizations in Houston and surrounding areas.  Give to organizations that are actually on the ground and giving to those who need the help.  Please check back over the next few days for organizations you can feel confident and comfortable in your giving.


Chat later!

God bless you all.



JULY // 17 // 2017


Do you ever have a day, week, or even a month, when you don’t feel you’re “enough?”  You’re not smart enough, pretty enough, funny enough, thick enough, skinny enough, or you don’t smile enough….If not, then God Bless!

I am not a person who has any lack in confidence.  Some may confuse my level of confidence with cocky, or full of myself, but I beg to differ.  I am confident in who I am and confident in my ability to do what I know I can do, yet smart enough to know what I’m not capable of doing and what needs to be outsourced.  What I have learned  is that it’s okay to admit both!  It’s okay to take deep inhales and blow the shit out of your own horn and it’s okay to admit when you simply don’t know.

But, here is my struggle…There are days when I feel like I am not enough of anything.  In those days, I am over critical of every being of me.  The kicker is, I’m not comparing myself with other women.  That’s too easy.  I’ve long surpassed that “What does she have that I don’t have?” stage.  I compare me to…me.  Am I giving y’all all of me that I blessed you with on yesterday?  Am I laughing as much as I did last week?  Am I as funny today as I was yesterday?  Am I as supportive as I used to be?  Am I the best me, I can be?  The problem with this kind of thinking is who exactly is the judge?  Who is the one telling me that I’m not doing enough?  The fact that must be faced is that I’M the judge.  I’m the one comparing me to me.

So often we put these unrealistic expectations on ourselves without giving room for err.  Of course we should always strive to be better than we were the day before.  There is absolutely always room for improvement, but there should also be room for mistakes.  Leave room for days when you give zero fucks about the way you look.  Leave room for the days you don’t care to be witty, or jovial, or supportive, because truth be told, sometimes you just don’t have it in you, and that’s okay.  Be confident in knowing that today, at this very moment, you are giving all you possibly can, even if you have to give an eye roll, because you’re simply not in the mood for BS, and can no longer fake it.  At least it wasn’t a “fuck off”, unless it was, and that’s okay, too!

You can’t possibly be everything to everyone, but you can damn sure be everything to yourself.  Choose you.  Your enough is absolutely enough!




DECEMBER // 13 // 2016

how do you refuel?

On my podcast, In My Opinion with Starr Howard, I have a segment that I like to call “Last Impressions.”  During this segment, when time allows, I ask each guest a set of light hearted, informative, tongue and cheek questions, that give listeners a small glimpse into their personalities.  One question that I ask every guest is “What’s the #1 most played song on your iPod?” I think a person’s music selection shows who they are, what they are currently, but I mainly ask to build my personal playlist.

The other question that I tend to ask more often than others is, “How do you refuel?”  I’ve gotten responses such as, work out, spend time with my kids, read, etc.  We all have busy schedules and activities in our lives that absorb so much of our pysical energy, and we are burnt out by the end of the day.  I have to say that most of that is self inflicted, however most of us don’t know how to refuel when our energy has depleted.  Our cars now give us warning lights when we are low on fuel, some cars inform us how many miles we have remaining until we are empty.  Some of us may not have vehicles that have any of those indicators; We know the car is out of fuel when we find ourselves at the stop light with no place to go.  So how do we know when WE are out of fuel?  What are our indicators?  What type of fuel makes us work best?  How do we refuel?


My mom has always told me to pay attention to my body.  Recognize when it’s time to slow down and give my body the rest it is, sometimes, begging for.  With that lesson taught to me at an early age, I’ve always taken the necessary time to put my body in park.  I never really knew any other mechanism of resting besides sleep, which is the number one way to refuel your physical body, but as I got older, I started to understand the importance of refueling the mental and emotional bodies.


I like to practice meditation, the first thing in the morning.  My mind is fresh and ready to receive.  Also, I don’t have the events of the day on my mind.  I’ve referred to meditation in a previous post, and it took me years to understand what meditation is, and how it works.  To be honest, I still have so much more to learn.  I do know that meditation allows you to slow your brain down and block out all of the outside noises both around you and inside of you and focus on ONE thing.  When I meditate, I focus on whatever it is that my mind and body is lacking.  At times, I choose to sit outside, alone, with a cup of coffee, and open my mind and heart to whatever it is that God wants me to hear, feel, and understand.  When possible, after a few minutes alone, I try to write down those thoughts.  There are other times in my meditation where I read the Bible or a book centered around Christ and the Bible, and meditate on the word.  I study and pray in my moment of meditation.  What this does is allow me to cast away any other situation or issue that has no importance and is not a part of God’s plan for me.  It shifts my focus and prepares me to tackle the purpose God has created for me.


Yoga can be practiced in partnership with meditation, and for some, yoga is a part of meditation.  I typically do a few sun salutations while my coffee is brewing, and it’s usually in my pajamas.  I’m going to Belize, in January, and I can’t wait to salute the sun on the beach!


Yoga has so many healing properties, both physical and mental.  It can improve your respiration, energy and vitality, increase your blood flow, drops your blood pressure, helps you focus, and can all around make you happy! Listen to podcast, episode 02 to hear other benefits of yoga and meditation.  Not only does yoga energize you, there are certain poses that can also calm and relax you.  There are times ,at night when my mind is racing, I choose to do a few relaxing yoga poses (in the bed), that relax me and bring a sound night of rest.



I love morning walks, especially on cooler days.  On warmer days, the humidity is so disrespectful, here in Houston.  When the temp drops, I like to feel the crisp morning air on my face and the sun shining down on me!  Since I am alone during this time, I notice the nature around me; the leaves on the ground, the trees along my path, the clouds in the sky.  This is a picture I snapped of a tree I walk by every day.  I’m not sure why I was so captivated by this tree, but I was!


My walks are not for physical gain, at all!  I grab my phone, ear buds, a playlist of my choice from Tidal Music, and a cup of hot coffee.  Those morning walks last about 30 minutes and allow my creative juices to flow.  I usually am thinking about my to do list and execution plan for the day.  Every now and then, new ideas are created on those morning walks.  Once I return to my office/desk, I’m refreshed and ready to take the day on.


Smoke has a great ritualistic connection with spirituality.  Frankincense and Myrrh were given as gifts to baby Jesus and when burned can release a holy smoke and fragrance that is known to clear negative energies, connect us with the our higher consciousness and spiritual realms and surround us with high vibrations.  In Native American tradition smoke can be seen as a bridge to the higher realms, a way to bring in good spirits and dispel the negative or stagnant ones. People usually burn sage when moving into a new home to remove any negative energy left behind by the other residents.


I am a strong believer in the power of energy.  I like to burn sage whenever I feel my energy has shifted.  When my energy shifts, either because of contact with others who hold negative energy or situations that may bring me down, my attitude is not pleasant and my behavior changes. I don’t like my thoughts and I’m physically tired.  It goes back to knowing my body and knowing my soul.  This recently happened to me, as recent as last week.  I encountered a few conversations and people who imposed their negative energy into my space and I literally felt it.  It was wearing me down. So, yesterday, I smudged some sage and prayed.  The burning of sage can transform and deflect unwanted energy, bless a space as sacred and connect you to your higher Self.  I can tell you, I feel ten times better.


I’m teaching myself more about Chakras and Crystals.  Chakras  are the seven power points in the human body that circulate energy or the life force.


Crown Chakra – The highest chakra represents our ability to be fully connected spiritually // Clear Quartz

Third Eye Chakra – Our ability to focus on and see the big picture // Amethyst

Throat Chakra – Our ability to communicate // Blue Sodalite

Heart Chakra – Our ability to love / Green Aventurine or Rose Quartz

Solar Plexus Chakra – Our ability to be confident and in control of our lives // Citrine

Sacral Chakra – Our connection and ability to accept others and new experiences // Red Jasper

Root Chakra – Represents our foundation and feeling of being grounded // Carnelian

If the Chakras are unbalanced – not properly aligned or blocked – it can affect physical and mental health.  In this same week mentioned above, my energy was waaaayyyy off balance.  So what did I do?  Placed the stone in the corresponding chakra area, where I felt the depletion, and prayed and meditated.

All is well with the world, for now….

I refuel daily! Every morning.  My form of refueling is more proactive than reactive. Some days, I engage in every activity I have listed, others, I do what is needed.  My suggestion to you is to set aside time, 5 minutes per day is sufficient, and act in your form of refuel.  If daily doesn’t fit your schedule, as my mom said, listen to your body.  Recognize when it’s time to relax and refuel.

How do you refuel?  Let me know in the comments.

Thanks Y’all!



“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” ~ Matthew 11:28

OCTOBER // 27 // 2016


Losing a job is a highly stressful and life altering event in anyone’s life.  Often time we walk into a job thinking that job is the job that’s going to boost your career and it’s a complete let down when you are let go.  Whether it’s a lay off, downsize, or you were fired, no one is ever 100% ready to lose their job, because, well…bills.  I’ve been laid off 3 times in the last 6 years (that’s once every 2 years) and each time pushed me closer to my real purpose in life.  Although my initial feelings were that of self doubt asking myself , Was I not good enough for the job? What did I do wrong?  Am I not smart enough?, I realized that it’s all a part of the process.  Since I seem to be a pro at this, I’ve outlined a few ways to cope after losing your job.


Allow yourself to feel the emotions!   There are five stages of grief that we go through when we lose special and meaningful things and people in our lives.  Losing your job, in some cases does cause grief, and in extreme cases can lead to depression.  Feel every single emotion that you encounter, but don’t dwell in your misery.  I remember, after this last layoff, running into a fellow coworker  in the parking garage, carrying a box of my belongings and immediately breaking down into tears. It hit me that I no longer have a job.  How am I going to pay my bills??? Although that feeling of sadness was temporary ( it maybe lasted an hour), I felt it.  I felt upset and hurt, so I cried, and that’s okay.  I felt angry and wanted to get back at whoever was at fault.  I felt all of that and you will too, if you allow yourself to. Don’t live in your misery.


I actually believe that my last “release” had a lot more to do with me personally, than professionally.  I can’t prove it, but in my heart of hearts, I am almost certain.  Despite my feelings of being let go of because of personal vendettas, I didn’t take it personally.  Removing me from the company for personal feelings was more about them than it was about me.  Accepting that the elimination of your position is not personal will allow you to cope with the loss.  At the end of the day, as an employee, you are a number.  We have the bad habit of giving loyalty to a company that doesn’t reciprocate those same feelings.  Learn to separate your professional life from your personal life. The best advice I’ve received from a coworker many years ago, was to go to work to make money, not friends.  At times it may be a bit difficult to not make friends, but allow those friends to happen organically.  Don’t give too much of you personally.


Having an identity and a sense of self is of the utmost importance.  A healthy Work – Life balance is a great way to be okay when you lose your job.  I’ve witnessed a number of people who have nothing else going for themselves but their job.  Their entire identity is wrapped up into their title at ABC Company.  You know, those people who take their jobs waaayyy too seriously and are intimidated by others who pose a threat to their existence and importance.  Don’t be that person.  That person will have a helluva time coping when they are no longer employed.  Understand that you are not your title, you are a mother/free spirit/wanderlust/wife/artist,  who happens to be an {insert job title here}.  When I was laid off, each time, I knew that I was not that job.  I knew that I was going to be okay because that job didn’t make me and it didn’t make you!


One thing I’ve learned if I haven’t learned anything it’s that when it’s time for you to move, God will move you! Sometimes, in most cases, you have reached your maximum potential and God knows that way before we do, so He will move us, because we won’t move ourselves, for several reasons.  time-to-goEither we feel comfortable, we don’t have confidence in knowing that there is something bigger and better for us, the money is good, great benefits, etc, so we stay. Every single time I was laid off, it was time for me to go!! I remember waking up to go to the second job I was laid off from with stomach pains and often crying before, during, and after work, but I would not leave.  I was recently laid off 2 years before that, took a $20K pay cut and was struggling, so this painful job was what I needed to make ends meet,but God knew better.  He removed me from that job and gave me something so much better, that gave me back the money I initially lost plus $20K more.  At my most recent job, I peaked.  I didn’t see any people in management positions or higher that looked like me, which was a clear indication that chances for upward mobility for me were slim to none.  If that’s the way any company wants to operate it’s fully within their right, but it’s your choice to stay or not. Just hang on to the fact that when you are removed from a job, it was your time to go and pursue other opportunities.  Accept it as a win!


There are people who are made for Corporate work and their are people who are made for entrepreneurship.  You have to know who you are.  Me, I enjoy the Corporate life, when it’s my own corporation.  I’m not that okay with taking orders from other people and I like to do my own thing, my way.  I like to believe that I’m a creative person and working towards someone else’s vision does not allow the opportunities necessary to display that creativity.  Take the time off to pursue those dreams you have been pushing to the side while you were making someone else’s dreams come true.  Push through that fear of failure and get it done.  Failure is a MAJOR part of success so face the failure head on.  Pursue what YOU want to do!  If it doesn’t work, at least you can say that you tried.  Don’t live with any ” I should haves”.  It’s not worth the stress.

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Let’s face it, working a full time job is taxing.  For those who have spouses and/or children, it’s very rare that you get time to yourself.  If the situation allows, take this time without a full time job, for yourself.  Relax.  Do things you couldn’t find the time to do when you were working 40+ hours per week.  My initial reaction when I was laid off was to immediately apply for jobs.  Trust me, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t look for your next opportunity, but don’t let it consume you.  Take your time to find the job that is right for you.  Refer to Number 5.  Take a mini vacation to clear your mind.  I’m currently spending 2 weeks in California, sitting at the table in San Diego with the doors open, writing this post! Treat yourself.  Take care of yourself!  Don’t burn yourself out. Refuel and prepare yourself for what God has lined up for you next!


I’m a prayer warrior!  I love it, I practice it, I soak in it, I seek it.  I’m a firm believer that prayer changes things. Completely!  The day after my most recent lay off, I woke up (when I wanted to, mind you), had a cup of coffee, sat on the patio and had a little talk with Jesus.  After that talk, life became so much more clear.  I make sure that I take 45 minutes to an hour, each morning for meditation, before I start my day.  I do yoga while the coffee is brewing (for about 5 – 10 minutes), then take the remaining time to pray, read, and meditate on God’s word.  This practice doesn’t remove the hiccups from my day, but it makes it a lot easier to deal with.  Whatever you do to bring you to a zen frame of mind, calms you down, and slows your brain down, do it and do it daily.  This practice helps me to deal with life’s obstacles.


It’s been 6 weeks since I was laid off and I’m busier now than I have ever been.  I’m working on pursuing my dreams and following the plan God has set for me.  It doesn’t come without sleepless nights, but I’m putting in the work and allowing God to use me for His purpose and His glorification.  I’m in a great place right now, mentally and physically (I mean, I’m in San Diego for goodness sake).  These steps helped me to cope.  I don’t wish anyone to lose their job, but if you ever find yourself in that situation, I hope these steps will get you through.

Love and Light!



I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my eye upon you.” Psalm 32:8

APRIL // 7 // 2016

Hey y’all!

Thank you so much for your interest in sending me to Haiti!  This is an opportunity that I feel so fortunate to be blessed with and I can’t wait to go and spread the good news of Christ.  Below is the official donation letter, just read and click here to proceed with a financial blessing.  Remember to type in my name (Starr Howard), in the note section.

Haiti Donation Letter

Thank you again!



“Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation.”  ~ Mark 16:15


SEPTEMBER // 25 // 2015


In the book of Romans, Paul says that “when I go to do good, evil is always present.”

Every single day of my Christian journey is a struggle; not because I’m an evil person, but simply because I’m a person.  I’m human.  Evil is always present. Bad things happen to good people.  All of those things you’ve heard so many times before, But God…

But God can only deliver us from evil doings.

But God is the one who is our comforter when we are surrounded by tens of people, yet still feel alone.

But God is the one who KNOWS we do evil, but loves us anyway.

How comforting is that?  I know that whenever there is a situation in my life that I may think is negative, God always has something positive right behind it. I want to encourage you with a few scriptures that get me through tough times; whether if it’s a battle within myself (Evil lurking) or a battle with outside forces.

Matthew 6:33 – But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

In all things, seek God FIRST!  That’s all…

2 Corinthians 12:9 – But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 

Jesus!  This scripture speaks to me!!  There are many times where I have been in a situation where either the people or the situation is a pain in my neck, but I have recently been in a situation where it’s felt like a thorn in my side!  I prayed and asked God to pretty much deal with it, then one day, this scripture was laid right in front of me.

The Apostle Paul was given a thorn in his flesh and he prayed the same prayer, THREE times for God to remove it, but God said, “No.  My grace is sufficient!!”

As opposed to asking God to remove this thorn, I started asking God to help me to deal, in spite of.  I’ve learned that His grace is sufficient, where I am weak, He is strong.  Once I have learned to rely on God’s grace, then I realized that the experience has and will continue to teach me patience.  I encourage you to view that sharp torment as a gift from our heavenly Father.

Luke 1:37 – For with God nothing shall be impossible.

My mantra is to live without limits.  Live in a fashion where you aren’t limiting yourself to certain skill sets, or goals and aspirations.  Many times the reason(s) people don’t try new things, or travel to unfamiliar and foreign places, or take deserving vacations, is because they feel that they are not worthy.  Those sorts of things are not things, or not places, or not adventures that they feel they deserve to experience. In addition, many people don’t go after certain positions in their career because they don’t think that the hiring manager will ever choose “someone like them”.

God doesn’t limit us.  He doesn’t limit our abilities, nor does He limit our potential, so why should we put those limits on ourselves?!  NOTHING is impossible with God on our side.

1 Chronicles 4:10 – Jabez called upon the God of Israel, saying, “Oh that you would bless me and enlarge my border, and that your hand might be with me, and that you would keep me from harm so that it might not bring me pain!” And God granted what he asked.

I usually recite and read this scripture daily.  I’m simply asking God to increase not only my territory, but increase me.  Increase me in every aspect of my life, but in the midst of my increase, stay with me to keep me from pain.

Scripture can provide so much hope and joy and peace and guidance and wisdom and comfort. I pray that the scriptures I’ve chosen as my Friday faves encourages you to continue to rely on Christ and give you the comfort that you need.


~ ♥ Starr


AUGUST // 26 // 2015


I originally wrote this post in October 2013 on STARRated (which is still up, but hasn’t been updated).  I went back to look at the site to work on archiving the old posts to #IamStarrHoward and noticed that this post gave me so much hope.   It reminded me that if you stay prayerful and trust and believe in God’s word, ALL things are possible!  I pray that it gives you the same hope it gave me when initially writing it and and the same hope it gave me when re-reading it.

Happy reading and remember that you create the life you want!


As I sit here brainstorming on merchandising ideas, marketing promotions, and inventory for my boutique storefront, I am completely and utterly overwhelmed.  Actually I’m in tears.  It’s hard for me to even grasp the fact that the dream I dreamt YEARS ago in my college dorm room has manifested into reality.  See to you, it may seem like a women’s clothing boutique is over done and you may think that fashion is superficial, but to me, it’s my dream.  I’ve been in this industry for a number of years, and have seen the smiles on people’s faces when I show the beauty on the outside what they have always owned on the inside.  This is my opportunity to do what is innate to me, and that’s simply motivating and uplifting people to be their best selves.  This is God’s work; I’m simply a vessel.

This opportunity is proof that dreams do come true.  It confirms what I have ALWAYS known, felt, and believed in every being of me…….My God is not only real, but He is AWESOME!!  To me, it’s evidence that when you nurture and water the seed that God has placed in your spirit, in your soul, it has no other choice but to grow.  To me, it’s proof that no matter your background, no matter, your failures, no matter your short comings, no matter the obstacles you are faced with, no matter the people who come in your life for their own personal gain, no matter the people who take you for granted, no matter the people who wrong you, no matter your education, no matter those who underestimate you, no matter how you may at times underestimate yourself, if you believe that God is real, if you turn your situations over to God, if you have a true relationship with Christ, and you put in the work, God will ALWAYS make a way.  But YOU have to do the work!

I’ve had this dream for about 10 years and it seemed like it would never come to fruition, but the moment I stopped obsessing over it, stopped trying to control the outcome, and really allowed God into my circumstances, and opened myself up to HIS direction, everything just fell right into place.  God sent amazing people into my life and amazing opportunities. That’s the thing about a seed that’s planted by God; He will place things and people around you that will guide you into fulfilling your dreams.  God knows when, how, and why to answer those prayers you’ve been praying for days, weeks, months, and even years.  Keep pushing through.  DON’T STOP!

Never give up on your dreams, never let negativity put out your fire, allow that negativity to fuel your fire.  Never settle for mediocrity, God makes no mistakes and did not create you to settle.  I believe that God put me here to do amazing things!! I was destined to be great and until I reach my full God given potential, I will never stop doing the work!!  I vow to never forget where my help comes from and there is no better help than the help of Jesus Christ.

Keep praying, keep working, and keep the faith….



May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.     -Romans 15:13

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